Bisexuality is a complex and often misunderstood concept. Curious to understand why?
Many people assume that bisexuality is just an attraction to both men and women, but it’s much more than that. Bisexuality encompasses a wide range of experiences and attractions, and the nuances of bisexual identity can vary greatly from person to person.
This post explores the hidden nuances of being bisexual, with a particular emphasis on women and their experiences. We’ll delve into the differences and distinctions between bisexual women & men and explore what it means to be bisexual in today’s society as well. Whether you’re proud and actively representing as bisexual or simply curious about it, this post is for you.
According to a 2018 survey by the Williams Institute at UCLA School of Law, approximately 25.5% of the LGBTQ+ community identify as bisexual. This means that bisexuality is the largest segment within the community, followed by gay/lesbian (21.4%), and then transgender (3.3%). It is important to note that these numbers are based on self-identification and may not accurately reflect the actual percentage of bisexuality within the larger LGBTQ+ population. About half of all LGBTQ+ individuals are estimated to have experienced bisexuality or same-gender attraction at some point in their lives. This fluidity highlights the importance of acknowledging and validating all sexual orientations.
Misconceptions, Invisibility & Discrimination
Bisexuality is often perceived as a binary attraction to both men and women, but in reality, it is much more fluid and complex than that. Bisexual people can be attracted to individuals of any gender, including non-binary and genderqueer individuals, and their attractions can shift and change over time. In fact, many bisexual individuals may experience different attractions at different stages of their lives.
However, bisexual identity is often misunderstood and stigmatized in our society. Bisexual individuals may face discrimination both from heterosexuals who see them as indecisive or promiscuous, and from the LGBTQ+ community, where they may be seen as not being “gay enough” or not fully embracing their queer identity. For bisexual women in particular, there are added complexities.
Research shows that bisexual women are at a higher risk for mental health issues, including anxiety and depression, than heterosexual or lesbian women. They may also face higher rates of poverty and employment discrimination. Additionally, bisexual women may experience “bi-erasure,” where their bisexuality is dismissed or erased by both heterosexuals and members of the LGBTQ+ community.
The Benefits
Despite these challenges, there are also many joys and benefits to being bisexual. Bisexual individuals can experience the best of both worlds, enjoying the unique qualities and experiences of different genders. Bisexual women in particular may have a greater appreciation for intimacy and emotional connection, as they are more likely to embrace their emotions and vulnerability in relationships. For sex and relationship coaches, understanding the nuances of bisexuality can be crucial in working with clients.
Dovie Gena happens to be an expert on the topic. “It’s important to create a safe and welcoming environment for clients to explore their sexuality and attractions, without fear of judgment or discrimination; especially when we introduce the touch piece of my practice.” Additionally, sex & relationship coaches can help clients navigate complex issues like bi-erasure, mental health challenges, and societal stigma, while celebrating the unique joys of being bisexual.
Bisexuality & Men
Male sexuality has long been a topic shrouded in taboos, particularly when it comes to bisexuality.
Despite movements towards acceptance and inclusivity, bisexual men still face significant challenges in today’s society. One of the biggest of these is the stigma and discrimination that comes with not fitting into traditional binary sexual categories. Bisexual men may also be judged by members of both the LGBTQ+ community and the heterosexual community, which can lead to feelings of isolation and insecurity. Additionally, bisexual men often face the assumption that they are promiscuous or unable to be monogamous, which can further complicate their relationships with partners.
Many people think that bisexual men are not as manly or trustworthy. This can make them feel alone or embarrassed about their sexuality, and they may not want to talk about it at all. To be inclusive and understanding, we need to recognize and help bisexual men who have different experiences than others.
Bisexuality is a complex and nuanced concept that requires understanding, empathy, and compassion. By exploring the hidden nuances of bisexual identity, particularly for women, we can begin to break down the stigma and discrimination that bisexual individuals may face. One of the best Ted Talks about this topic that makes it palatable for others to understand is by Misty Gedlinski, “The Invisible B”. If you are struggling to explain your sexuality to your family, friends or partners, this video comes highly recommended.
Whether you’re proud and actively representing as bisexual or simply curious about it, it’s important to approach the topic with someone you suspect is bisexual with an open mind and a willingness to learn.
By embracing the joys and complexities of bisexuality, we can celebrate the diversity and richness of human sexuality.
